How you live defines your life. Your mind takes the direction you choose. If you do good, your mind wants to do more good and if you want to be vengenceful, the mind only follows your directions.
Having gratitude and being thankful is the key. Love yourself and do not let unreasonable emotions rule your mind.
Problem solving is an integral part of your daily living. If you respond to unresolved conditions in your life and are finding answers in other people’s lives, you will definitely not find any answers.
If you look at a problem as a problem, it lingers on in your mind but if it’s looked at as an opportunity, then you look only for solutions.
So look at the problem and understand where it’s coming from. And why? And accept the answers as they come from within you.