YOUR SUCCESS IS NOT A DEFINITION OF YOUR DUTY
All of us are bound by our duties to our family. In the process of performing our duties, we get enslaved by our perceptions of how successful we should be in performing our duties.
Duties are our bindings to the family, something that needs to be done in order to make the family machinery work. It is our involvement in certain tasks that contribute to the welfare of the family. It’s a sense of responsibility that binds us to our actions.
You cannot skip your duties as you contribute to the fabric of all the actions in totality that are required to complete a family in every way. Duties are basic and their non performance leaves your day incomplete. There is no escape from your duties.
People often make the mistake of finding the most successful way of performing duties. As a result, they get more and more engrossed with their concept of success.
Your concept of success is now no more duty bound as it alienates you from the family. You may feel your success quotient is a measure of doing your duty but it is not so. Duties are inclusive whereas success is exclusive. This confusion is where all your problems begin. Let me clarify;
When you do your duty, you include yourself as a part of the family and complete tasks that are inter-related to each other. Each of you performs your duties in the family so that none is over burdened with work. A sense of responsibility binds you to your duties.
Success is a different story. It’s your personal concept. While you run behind your success, you find all the ways and means to make your concept work. You are constantly pushing your egos to find its expression in your success story. While duties are inward bound and as a selfless act, success needs lots of gratification from the outside.
Duties are thankless tasks but relax your minds and your conscience whereas successes are always ego-centric. So in chasing your success, you often distance yourself from your family. You are so distanced that your family does not feel your presence anymore.
These examples are very common these days. People are often seen working late and are not available to anyone in the family. When asked, they say that they are doing their duty to the family while they are actually following their personal concept of success.
The actions for success thereafter are no more family bound and are purely selfish accomplishments for personal gratification.
Duties and success do not share the same parameters. You cannot justify your personal success as a duty to your family.
Choose your concepts wisely and bring a balance in your personal and work life. This balance truly defines your success in life.